That's why your sex life sucks
Since a while, my girlfriend has an xhamster profile and I really like to keep an eye on it. I'm not doing it only to fulfill some kind of narcissistic need, nor to "protect" her (she's perfectly capable to and I completely trust her on it), but because it's something truly enlightning about how people live sex and sexuality...the very sad thing is the huge majority lives it in a totally worng way!
Her profile is constantly overwhelmed with lame/inappropriate/creepy messages and comments. The general attitude (luckily with some exceptions) is begging for attention but, at the same time, act like if the one you're trying to talk to is just fuckmeat and not a person in primis. Something like "for being on a pornsite, you're a total slut potentially available for anyone so the only thing I have to do is to catch your attention". Guys, it doesn't work like that.
For instance, I remember this totally out of the blue comment on her wall:
"I'd like to own you, look in those beautiful eyes hidden behind glasses and see your lust" (the real one was in a much less correct English).
Now, dude, you don't know each other at all, you never spoke, you've never even see her and her eyes in a single picture. I couldn't help but felt the need to reply, trying to put it in an easy and witty way (since I'm not on here to argue with random guys):
"How can you tell her eyes are beatiful? She could be walleyed as far as you know...".
His reply to this was just awesome:
"Without a doubt, but a sexy Venus' strabismus" (still in a much worst English).
That's incredibly lame, miserable and desperate. And fucking stupid. So stupid I don't even wanna lose my time trying to explain you why. If you don't see the point by yourself, you're far too dumb to understand any further explanations.
But the most enlightning episode was a much simpler one. Not long ago, she published a picture of her giving me a blowjob. The very first comment was "lucky guy!". That simple ordinary (and very common on here) comment completely opened my eyes. The huge majority of males lives sex as something women grant maybe for pity, maybe for a need of attention, maybe for a sense of duty toward the partner, but not as something they do 'cause they actually like it too in the same way a man could.
So you should consider yourself lucky if you end up in a girl that gives it over and allows you to put your cock in her mouth. Think about it, how many clips on here have "lucky guy/dude/bastard/man" in the title? How many contain the words "slut", "bitch", "whore"? As if those girls are naughty exceptions to the we're-normal-women-so-we-don't-allow-you-to-have-sex-with-us rule and those who meet them are simply lucky.
That's so bloody wrong! A woman having sex is not a prostitute and a man having sex is not a lucky bastard! Sex is sharing, is mutual pleasure and that should be easy to understand, still tons of guys just don't get it.
The more you refuse to see it, the more you struggle, the more you grow frustrated, the more you act like a desperate and disrespectful idiot, the less you have sex.
Talk, be respecful, know each other, share something other than "He1 cuti3 pie suck my cock" and, above all, don't make yourself miserable, for fucksake! Because that's the reason you don't have sex. It's not because you're unactractive, not because your dick is small, not because you're simply unlucky, but because you're miserable and frustrated.
Understand that sex is not only something for males and it's much more than put your willy inside a whatever hole available out of a lucky shot: that's the secret, make it yours, master it and be happy.
Her profile is constantly overwhelmed with lame/inappropriate/creepy messages and comments. The general attitude (luckily with some exceptions) is begging for attention but, at the same time, act like if the one you're trying to talk to is just fuckmeat and not a person in primis. Something like "for being on a pornsite, you're a total slut potentially available for anyone so the only thing I have to do is to catch your attention". Guys, it doesn't work like that.
For instance, I remember this totally out of the blue comment on her wall:
"I'd like to own you, look in those beautiful eyes hidden behind glasses and see your lust" (the real one was in a much less correct English).
Now, dude, you don't know each other at all, you never spoke, you've never even see her and her eyes in a single picture. I couldn't help but felt the need to reply, trying to put it in an easy and witty way (since I'm not on here to argue with random guys):
"How can you tell her eyes are beatiful? She could be walleyed as far as you know...".
His reply to this was just awesome:
"Without a doubt, but a sexy Venus' strabismus" (still in a much worst English).
That's incredibly lame, miserable and desperate. And fucking stupid. So stupid I don't even wanna lose my time trying to explain you why. If you don't see the point by yourself, you're far too dumb to understand any further explanations.
But the most enlightning episode was a much simpler one. Not long ago, she published a picture of her giving me a blowjob. The very first comment was "lucky guy!". That simple ordinary (and very common on here) comment completely opened my eyes. The huge majority of males lives sex as something women grant maybe for pity, maybe for a need of attention, maybe for a sense of duty toward the partner, but not as something they do 'cause they actually like it too in the same way a man could.
So you should consider yourself lucky if you end up in a girl that gives it over and allows you to put your cock in her mouth. Think about it, how many clips on here have "lucky guy/dude/bastard/man" in the title? How many contain the words "slut", "bitch", "whore"? As if those girls are naughty exceptions to the we're-normal-women-so-we-don't-allow-you-to-have-sex-with-us rule and those who meet them are simply lucky.
That's so bloody wrong! A woman having sex is not a prostitute and a man having sex is not a lucky bastard! Sex is sharing, is mutual pleasure and that should be easy to understand, still tons of guys just don't get it.
The more you refuse to see it, the more you struggle, the more you grow frustrated, the more you act like a desperate and disrespectful idiot, the less you have sex.
Talk, be respecful, know each other, share something other than "He1 cuti3 pie suck my cock" and, above all, don't make yourself miserable, for fucksake! Because that's the reason you don't have sex. It's not because you're unactractive, not because your dick is small, not because you're simply unlucky, but because you're miserable and frustrated.
Understand that sex is not only something for males and it's much more than put your willy inside a whatever hole available out of a lucky shot: that's the secret, make it yours, master it and be happy.
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