How do I cuck my husband further?

How do I cuck my husband further?

Dear Cuckoldress,
I have been hotwifing for around five years and slowly the relationship has been evolving into more of a cuckold situation. I now can have a lover any time I want and I actively seek them out. Sometimes we have threesomes but that is rare now and I meet my boyfriends on my own. Usually at a motel but once and a while I go to their place depending on their situation. My husband is not permitted any affairs and if we are at a party or a swing club he is not allowed to play with other women. I should add that he is straight.

Yes, he likes the idea of my cucking him and he enjoys that I go out with other men. I would like to make him more jealous about this though. Our routine now is that when I get home he does oral cleanup. Usually I let him fuck me for sloppy seconds but he has to wear a condom. He has been in condoms for about a year. We have never discussed him preparing my lovers although we have discussed creampies a little sort of as a fantasy while in bed but safe sex rules that out and all my lovers wear condoms for intercourse. My husband has a lot of restrictions on what he is permitted to do with me and my boyfriends are allowed everything. So we play a lot of denial games and I love to get him frustrated. As I said he likes the idea of me cucking him but I want to take it further without discussing it with him and make him accept whatever I want including things that I know he will find challenging or even extremely difficult. How can I bend him, even break him, what do I use as my power over him to force him?
I am very hot to take this all to another level. The discussions of breaking the husband really get me excited. I would like to know what to do to make him an ultimate cuckold and as your forum letters say lose his self-respect, break his will, reduce his manhood, break him. I want to own him (at least his sexuality, or lack of it) and humiliate him. Of course, I do love him and don’t want to change the rest of our life. I would like to start a lot of verbal humilation and degrading of him but don’t know what to say or where to start. Also I want to control his sexuality more (we are not into chastity devices) and his orgasms. Also I guess revealing the nature of our so far very private arrangement to others would be a big step. Do you have any ideas about that? What do you think his breaking point will be, how will I know, how do I keep him in that state? Once he is broken how do I build on it?. I know this won’t happen in a weekend but I want to keep pushing him and find news ways to torment him. I can’t wait to hear from you. This is soooo exciting and I love having someone to help guide me. Thank you thank you thank you. Carly



cuckoldress


Dear Carly,
Forgive me I have been busy with a new lover. I want to first say you are further along then you think. If you are already meeting lovers on your own then you have already massaged your husbands male ego. With men it is always the male ego that we are dealing with and it has strong roots in jealousy and possessiveness. You have already gone beyond that point.

You do not want to break you husband as you may eventually end up losing self respect for him. What you want is for your husband to submit himself completely to your will and do it willingly. You want all of him emotionally, spiritually and physically.

Cuckolding is a process and it takes time but the Cuckoldress eventually takes control sexually. I suspect you already close to that point with dating alone but your husband is holding back. Physically he submits to you but emotionally and spiritually he his holding out or else you would not want to take this further. You sense it and it concerns you as you are enjoying your new found power. You do not want him turning the tables on you one day and changing his mind.

How to take it further? The first thing you have to do is realize that you have to include your cuckold even when you are dating alone. What you want to achieve is what the cuckolds refer to as Cucky Angst. A state of lust, desire, fear and jealousy which causes very powerful emotions inside the cuck. My husband describes it as a d**g. When he is in this state of mind he is completely mine. This will help with the submission of his will to yours.

This is done by teasing and subtle humiliation. You should inform your husband ASAP when you are going to meet someone. Tease him about how excited you are meeting this lover and then inform him he will just have to wait and wonder what you are doing. This is teaching the cuckold to give up control. He will also be aroused at the thought of how excited you are. Make your husband get your clothes ready for the your date and of course tease him while he is doing it. Reach around while he is ironing your clothes and rub his little dick and whisper in his ear "I'm getting a real cock tonight". You want him in a state of arousal before you leave but tell him no cumming. As soon as men cum the male ego comes back. Make him help do your make up and tease him about your lover while you are doing it. Make sure you ask your hubby if you look good for your lover. You said you are not into chastity Yet, but take a silk scarf and tie it tight around his balls and cock and tell him to leave it on as long as he can. Get him use to the idea. This will help keep him from cumming as well.

Get him to take pictures of you all dressed up before your date. Cuckold are natual voyuers and perpetual masturbators. He will rub himself looking at them while you are dating. Also take the camera and have your lover take pictures of you sucking him and so forth. You will want your hubby jacking off to them days afterward. This will make him to desire you dating. Remember Pavlov's dog ladies? Men are no different, the words "I am going on a date will start them salivating!

Call him from your cell on your date and give him periodic updates.Tell him how handsome your lover is and what a good time you are having. If we meet in a bar I will always rub my lovers cock under the table and when I call hubby I will tell him how big it is. Always remind hubby no cumming! One technique that I like to use when I getting fucked I will call and lay the phone beside me until I cum and then hang up, not saying a word through the whole thing. Afterwards call him and tease him on your way home. Get him all excited and when you come through the door well fucked he will be putty in your hands.

When he is fucking you tell him big your lover was and ask him if your pussy is well stretched? Tell him you can barely feel him inside you. The most important part is after he cums and you have subtly humiliated him all night is to be very loving. The only way a man is going to give up his ego is he has to feel secure and loved from his partner. You have to let him feel all your love. Game time is over now and hubby will understand you are just having fun.

Sincerely,
The Cuckoldress