Sex life has been part of every relationship. It helps keep the partner’s love for each other burning with passion and intimacy. However, there will be times that it might be boring, especially for those who’ve been together for many long years. With that, satisfying lovemaking might be harder to achieve, which might lead to detachment or, worse, splitting up.
But don’t worry! In case that happens to you and your partner, there are solutions to bring back the spark of your lovemaking. There are things you can do to spice up your sex life.
Be more creative with sex toys.
Sex toys are sex toys for a reason. They offer a playful and intense sex life to couples or individual self-pleasure. There are many types of sex toys with specific designs for different functions, such as rings, dildos, and vibrators. You can search for these things and eventually try to use them with your partner.
Dildos are likely the most known sex toy for couples. They are useful in lovemaking because they can hit the most erogenous zone of the body when sexually active— the G-spot.
This zone is frequently known for women as part of the clitoral network that once stimulated, your body can feel intense sexual arousal and eventually have a powerful orgasm. It can be helpful in foreplay.
While most people know this spot only for women, men also have their G-spot. It is called the prostate gland, located under the bladder. This gland is highly sensitive that it leaves an incredible feeling of arousal once stimulated through anal penetration. There are anal dildos designed to arouse your partner. Believe it or not, there are actually straight men who are into this type of kink.
‘Netflix and chill’ with an erotic film
You two can start with ‘chill’ first by knowing each other’s titillations. One of those might be watching erotic films before you do the thing. This is a great mood setter for both of you to condition yourselves for intense and passionate lovemaking. There are countless erotic films available on the internet anyway. It’s just one click away!
If you find erotic films not sexually engaging enough, you can always go with porn videos anytime. There are varieties of porn available online sorted on the sites so you can effortlessly search what type of porn acts you two can get aroused. There are actually couple-friendly porns that might be perfect for you. Queer porn is also available in case you’re in a same-sex relationship.
Teasing by pleasuring yourself in front of your partner
Masturbation can be a significant part of the foreplay. It sets the hormones to become sexually stimulated as a preparation for the actual thing. Doing this in front of your partner as a teaser is an effective means for lovemaking to be more fun and exciting. You may eventually help your partner in doing this.
Remember that there’s no other satisfying feeling than seeing your partner enjoying doing sexual things while teasing you.
Allowing yourself to watch your partner pleasuring oneself and vice versa can improve your relationship’s intimacy more. It strengthens the closeness to each other because you learn how they want to be touched in a particular area and vice versa, exploring each other’s vulnerability.
If you and your partner are adventurous enough to try something new, you might also consider using a remote-controlled sex toy to help each other while ejaculating. This act can boost and overdrive both’s libido while the controller deals with the sex toy.
Moreover, masturbation has beneficial effects on the body, physically and mentally. It helps to reduce stress and make you feel relaxed. It can also boost the mood and ease the struggles of sleeping. It is also a way of avoiding the rampant disease among men, which is prostate cancer.
Take turns doing the work
Do not apply any gender biases on things, including when having sex with your partner. While most men do the work, women can actually do it too. Please your partner on what they want, and they will please you likewise.
Sex becomes more enjoyable when you are in a give and take situation. Hence, make your sex night fulfilling by ensuring your partner receives the same pleasure you get. It is how relationships work anyway. Apply it to both your relationship and sex life.
Bringing up your sexual fantasies
How many times you’ve dreamt of doing other sex positions with your partner? How about trying other kinks aside from just mere lovemaking? You can bring these fantasies up with your partner the next time you schedule your sex night. Tell them that you want to try things just to spice your sex life up.
A sex therapist, Ian Kerner Ph.D., suggests that you can integrate the mundane things you want to do in the context of sex or your fantasies. As an example, you can say that you couldn’t get over the film Fifty Shades of Grey you two had watched last night. You can also say that you had just a dream of you and your partner having sizzling hot sex in the shower. Your partner will surely get a hint from these innuendos.
Have an after-sex conversation
Talking about random things after sex is just as precious as the actual sex itself. This is when you can communicate about major or minor problems in your relationship and what needs to work on out more.
Communication is what relationships need the most, after all. Research even finds that couples who talk or argue more often tend to last longer than those who rarely do. Doing this can keep the relationship stronger, which means more exciting sex nights to come.
Takeaway
While doing all these things can lead to more exciting sex life, always remember that consent should be given first from both of you. Respect from each other is always a must, especially in relationships. So, always ask your lover first and make them understand your needs.